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Friday, 9 January 2015

Just a Thought: Dangling the carrot



Dangling the carrot is a controlmachinism  used by people to keep certain animals or people within their control. They use the one thing that they know that the other person or animal wants the most to lure them into situations or keep them under their control. That's probably not how Wikipedia would describe the "trade" but for the purpose of this note I'll be Wikipedia.

I haven't been sleeping well, I have been going to bed very late maybe suffering from slight insomnia and getting up very early and anybody who knows me knows I don't get up early unless my bed is on fire. So for the first time this week, after a great church service I went to bed on time i.e before the chickens got up. But as my luck would have it I had to dream something about chuckies mom trying to kill the bride of chuckie because turns out chuckies bride is damn abusive....yes I would make a kickass horror movie writer! 

So anyway it's 4am and I am up and can't seem to get back to my sleep, ok maybe I'm a bit afraid I'll see chuckies mom again! She scares me! There is no better time to think of all the worlds problems than at 4am. 

Worlds problems? I mean my problems. 
I started thinking about a certain past relationship of mine and that's where this "dangling the carrot" thing comes from. 
I was crazy about him! And he knew it...well I didn't exactly make a secret of it. We met a few years ago after he'd try to ask me out a few times on Facebook but that one particular day I had had a major fight with my older boyfriend and I packed my staff then decided instead of sitting at home mopping, let me give this fella a chance in any case when was the last time I went on a date. So we made arrangements and went on our date the next evening. Our story will unfold in this book I have been threatening to write so if you stick around long enough I might just make real on that threat. Anyway  I have known and been crazy about this guy for 4 years! 4 whole years but we were never officially an item, we were "seeing" each other from time to time and why I was stuck in a "seeing" relationship with the dude for 4 whole years was because this dude kept dangling the damn carrot infront of me, he told me he loved me and that's what I wanted to hear so I kept chasing the damn carrot but could never catch it because as much as he kept telling me he loved me nothing came out of it and at some point I convinced myself that maybe he loved differently! Bullsh*t n*gga was dangling the carrot and I'll tell you why in that book I keep threatening about. 
But all is not lost you see because oneday I woke to the really that actually I have been chasing my own tail around the whole time. So what did I decide? Skrew his carrot! I don't need his carrot, I still want the carrot but I don't need his unattainable carrot. I can have my own carrot, I can love and be happy with myself-my own carrot! 

Monday, 5 May 2014

Festival Vibes


I'm not a huge fan of festivals, however my girl Kholi and I decided to do new things this year. So we attended the #backtothecityfestival in New Town. The festival was not that great but getting ready was super fun all in all it was fabulous experience especially since I was with my partner in crime 



 







 






Wednesday, 26 February 2014

Get The Look, My Favourite Colleague

She's has to be my most absolutely favourite person in the world, her larger than life personality and bright smile make me miss her even when she's just sitting across from me.

Her Closet is to die for literally. I went in there and died! It is so Jerseylicious, Pink, leopard print and studs, we always say if she were American she would from New Jersey. This look I love, its simple and sassy, perfect for a Wednesday and the pop of colour just brings it to life.
 


 
 




 

 



Monday, 17 February 2014

Inspired Post: My December Vacay

Thanks to clothes-lovers for inspiring this post, I absolutely loved your Vacay post.

So this past December I went on a cruise with my boo,  7 days of wonderful weather, days spent on the pool deck soaking up some sun (for the vitamin D neh, blacks don't tan) sipping on cocktails, Island hopping and oh that wonderful sunburn. I didn't plan any of my clothes all I was interested in were my swim suits because hello we are on a cruise ship and really not much clothing is required.

We'll always have the memories!

This is a small city
 

The entertainment brought out the dancing queen in me

Club Scene

Club scene


With the natives in Anakao, they charged me $1 each to take a pic with them can you believe it! So they all have on their faces some stone which they believe will "make their skin lighter" I guess everything is the same no matter where you go.


Fished and prepared as you watch

My favourite thing about the cruise: I saw God

He is from Durban and has been working on the ship for 9 months, even when they dock in Durban he cant go home.









 

Made with Love: Mozambique Portuguese Island
 





Friday, 7 February 2014

Get the Look: Operation get a Promotion

Ok, I didn't get a promotion, not yet anyway but with this outfit I don't think anybody would say no if I asked.


 





Sunday, 2 February 2014

Get the Look: Touch of Neon

It was my girl Kholi's birthday weekend and in true Kholi style the theme was "a touch of neon" thank God that she's 24 this year so only a touch was enough, last year it would have been all neon! 



Ayanda



The Birthday girl, Kholi

And Moi