Define Happiness

What does it really mean to be happy? I'm talking about real happiness not the textbook version of it, i want to hear real life human definitions.
I have been living my life in limbo lately, waiting, waiting for what? I don't know? I tell myself I'm waiting for a job and then i will be happy, see I believe that if i can walk into a store see something i like, be able to buy it even if it isn't immediately but the prospect  of being able to purchase it in the future then I will be happy....I'm mislead, I know but my theory goes beyond that, according to rich people money doesn't buy happiness and if anybody ought to know that they should, its their world but not having money doesn't make u happy either. I think the concept of money not buying happiness only applies if u would sacrifice your happiness for money, u can be rich and happy just don't choose money over happiness, choose both.

I hate facebook sometimes, people are forever talking about how fabulous their lives are and how happy they are, makes me wonder which happiness are they talking about, are they really happy, what is it about the weekend that is making them happy, what happens when u don't have plans for the weekend are u still happy then? i want to know the secret to being happy...new shoes make me happy but that never lasts because i always want a new pair or maybe a man should make me happy. but i have one, a spectacular one at that, maybe it the constant wonder about the future that's keeping from my happiness, I wonder if with the right guy, if  maybe there is another person better for me out there, or if ill be as successful as i want to be, if I'm a good friend, a good daughter and lots of shoes...

So then what is real happiness? What is it that I'm waiting for that keeps me from living? not living is keeping me from my happiness.

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I am not my hair

So this morning I was listening to a certain radio station and the hot topic was hair, on learners in particular. Apparently a new rule has been passed in some of multiracial school about how black students should keep their hair.
According to this rule black learners cannot wear dreadlocks, have an afro, cut their hair or even wear braids....What exatly are they to do with their hair i asked myself apparently they were only allowed to have relaxed hair. a couple of questions ran through my mind as this makes no sense at all.

• How do you relax a child whose in grade1? do u know how those chemical burn your scalp while relaxing? u know small children play however they please and get all kinds of dirt on their hair so how do you then clean that child up because cant wash relaxed hair as your please. Dont they in essence end more untidy?
• What realy is the real reason for this "rule"? so white kids can have natural hair and black kids cant?

When i was in primary school my mother used to say to me when we were told we cannot have braids that I can do what ever I wanted with my hair during the holidays, why didnt she stand up for me? Is it untidy when my braids are tied up in a ponytail but tidy when Carla Madeira has her pony tail up to ber butt?

What baffled me was that for such a hot topic no parent actually called to tell their side of the story, students, uncles and aunts and only 1 dad called in, emailed or tweeted. I know that most of our parents never had the opportunities that we have today so they feel our opportunities should not be wasted on something as trivial as hair... you see if only our parents and those who make decisions on their behalf could stop acting like they are doing us a favour and realise that these oppotunities are our rights, were our rights to begin with.

Then I started wondering why we (us black people) made such a huge deal when our schools want to dictate to us how to wear our hair when we put our own children through the torture of growing their hair to look "beautiful", haven't I seen young children with weaves, braids, relaxed hair and forth? Why are we so obsessed with hair? How can we not be judged if we ourselves judge ourselves, girls with weaves hate on girls with natural hair and vice versa....
So the way I see it, we cant decide and accept for ourselves what our definition of beautiful is so the white people decide for us just like they used our hair to determine our race they defining beautiful for us.

Mbali S

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